'The Single Strategies' Springfield - A Long Way from 'Sex and the City'

The Single Strategies

* Names have been changed.

There I was, about to embark on the lifestyle that some women tend to hate. The lifestyle of a single woman, and I say only some not all, because not all woman deem being single a curse from the love fairy herself, however there are those that do, and I was definitely one of them.
 
Nevertheless, I decided that I was going to go with it, take it for what it was worth and maybe even have a little fun. Since I was still shaken about my previous experience with Ryan* I tried approaching the idea of being a newly single women with a few different strategies.
 
Since I had been hurt, I told myself that I wasn’t going to let that happen again and so the first strategy I used was the ice queen strategy.
 
Ah, the ice queen. This is the woman that wants nothing to do with love. Simply believes it doesn’t exist. She hates love letters, romantic comedies and the whole soul mate idea. She is content with being unhappy and miserable, because her heart is essentially made of ice. She shuts everyone and everything out, to avoid the risk of manipulation or heartbreak. The interesting thing about the concept of the ice queen is that it is more or less the result of a broken woman. She has had her heart broken and never repaired, and so she vows to never allow herself to fall in love again because of the fear of the pain it would cause her.
 
Like the ice queen, I had had my heart broken, and so I thought,  if I don’t open up,  I won’t fall in love and if I don’t fall in love then I can’t get hurt. I thought it would be easy for me to follow this strategy because I already had all of this negativity when it came to dating so what more of an effort did I need? Yeah, it didn’t work and when I say it didn’t work I mean more like it failed despondently.

Sure, I was miserable but even more miserable than I had ever been before, and the last thing I wanted to do was revert right back to the lifestyle of a Debbie Downer. I was so bitter that I found myself getting angry with strangers for the mere reason of holding hands or wearing a wedding ring.
 
Needless to say that wasn’t really working out. I discovered that when it comes down to it, I’m just really not an ice cold b****. It’s just not who I am or ever will be. Once again, I was ruining myself but for what reason?